Week 8
Is There Love After Baby
Something that was interesting to me is that made me stop and think is that kids do bring a lot of stress to a marriage or a relationship, even though you can be totally aware that a child will be a lot of work. The hardest part is the unexpected events that come about with both parents having different parenting styles, this can be the
cause of disagreements in a relationship/marriage. The concept is that
when parents are dealing with conflicts with a child it creates problems
between a relationship/marriage not because of the child; it's due to unsolved problems in the relationship that at one point were not resolved. This is interesting to me because when
my daughter was in kindergarten, she was having a lot of trouble
transitioning from preschool and my spouse and I didn't really discuss
the best way to approach these issues, after we began to get in line
with our
parenting styles we learned how to talk through issues regarding our
daughter. When other issues would arise with her in school I was
thankful that we as a couple learned how to communicate better, I wouldn't want to create a broken home and just give up on my marriage. I wonder if articles like "Is There Love After Baby" were made available to couples expecting a child, would the chances of a broken home be less? In the article I learned the importance of good communication between couples, this is
key to working through major life changes relationships go through such
as having children, job changes, finances etc. I most want to remember
how important my relationship is, not only to me but to my daughter and
husband as well. I want be able to talk to my husband about anything that might potentially build up even if it seems unimportant and I hope he will always be open to listen.
I totally agree with you on that one it's so important to communicate in a relationship otherwise it makes things so much harder for you as a couple as well as being parents.
ReplyDeleteGreat way to tie it back into the parenting styles that we learned. I think that is something that can come from experience, but should also be talked about before having kids. You are right that communication is the key to a great relationship and great parenting. Excellent blog entry.
ReplyDeleteI think alot of people do give up in their relationships after children, because they think of different ways to raise a kid and may feel their significant other is not worthy of parenting. I think it's good for children to see their parents working through their problems so it shows that when problems arise, backing out isnt the only option.
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